Joanne - 20
bit of a mess tbh


These tweets from @OfRedAndBlue are very important.

"Feminism is not about who opens the jar.

It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.

It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.

But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it."

Jake Peralta + Canada


we’ve taught girls to romanticise nearly everything a boy does. when i was younger i thought it was cute that boys chased the girl even after she said no. i loved it when after a girl moved away from a kiss, the guy would pull her back and force it on. i thought a guy saying ‘i won’t take a no for an answer’ was passionate and romantic. we’re literally always teaching girls to romanticise abusive traits.


I need one

Rinko Kikuchi - Louis Vuitton Series 1 

Rinko Kikuchi - Louis Vuitton Series 1 


White women cannot be intersectional though. Like, intersectional isn’t an adjective, it isn’t a verb, it isn’t a descriptor of a person. Its “intersectional experiences” that matter and are the crux of the whole “conversation.” There is no “being intersectional” involved.

The whole damn point of the concept was to address that the experiences of Black women were not simply racism + sexism, but a whole new “intersection” of experience. Taking this concept by Kimberle and making it a moniker to show how new wave feminist you are is the same tired shit that white women always pull, absorbing and regurgitating concepts that they scarcely even comprehend.

The best you could possibly is say is that you recognize the intersectional experiences of those you cannot begin to truly understand. That’s it. You are not “intersectional” it isn’t a new name for you to tack onto your blog header.